It feels like time has started slowing down a bit. Sometimes when I look at Arren he feels way older than 3 months?! Continue reading
It feels like it was just yesterday that I wrote my musings for the first month! Nothing makes you realise how fast time goes by like a baby, before having Arren a month didn’t feel like such a big deal, but now when I see all the milestones we go through on a monthly bases as humans I feel more grateful for the time I have in this earthly life.
A lot has happened this month; The best thing that happened this month is definitely the fact that Arren finally likes his dad! I think we finally wore him down with all our intense ” You will like your father” techniques! Hey, it worked! Everyday just keeps getting better with this guy!
MUSINGS OF FIRST TIME PARENTS – 2 MONTHS
- We’ve figured out how to bounce Arren to sleep in a shorter amount of time. It might look weird to people, but hey! It works! It also causes slight cramping instead of one long cramp from an hour of “normal” bouncing.
- You wont know how to stand still without your baby in public. I start bounce standing when talking to people now.
- Going out with a baby means taking everything you own ,because you don’t know if you will need it or not.
- Being late will just become the norm. Even if you get up really early, have everything ready a poopslosion can turn into an impromptu bath time.
- Making it to church at 9am is a distant memory. Things just take longer and its okay, soon we will figure out how to leave the house before 11:30.
- Arren can go from a happy smiling baby to a sad baby within a minute. Babies are bipolar.
- Everything is worth it, because of that amazing little person in your arms. The cute baby smiles, giggles and coos will make your heart melt.
- Why is there vomit on everything???
- Arren is more engaged now and loves to play.
- A more wakeful baby also means more time to figure out why he’s crying.
- Arren went to his first funeral this month and I saw first hand the comfort a baby can bring to everyone around them.
- You wont believe how many photos you take.
The birth of Arren sure will be a memorable one. This little guy has had spunk since inside the womb. From taking his sweet time to get out of the breech position, making his mommy crawl around on a carpet every day, doing obscene poses to nudge him into the right position. He eventually decided to flip into the right position for birth after that it was all smooth sailing until my due date and he decided that he was just so comfy in the womb that he just did not want to come meet us! This little guy has some serious attitude and we just love him for it.
My due date came and went, and I started realising, that baby will come when baby is ready! I tried all the little labour inducing tricks, with no luck at all and decided to just be patient. Until….the new year came rolling in and I still had no baby?! Even my midwife was getting worried and asked if it was time we tried the castor oil method. I was really apprehensive of taking castor oil, because I just wanted baby to be completely ready to meet us and not have any problems once he was out. The night before we saw and felt the baby doing his practice breathing, and I just felt like taking the castor oil would just not be right. We scheduled an appointment with the midwife for the next day, but I just knew that baby would be here soon.
On 2 January 2017 we watched a show in bed and fell asleep. I was actually having such a lovely sleep dreaming about essential oils when at 2:05 am 3 January, I woke up to my water having broken. Man, it was such a weird feeling. I just remember getting woken up and saying “oooh”. Carl woke up ( hes been on high alert for weeks and every sound I made would put him in “It’s go time” mode) and asked me whats wrong, as I walked to the loo, I say walk, but it was more of a weird wobble, trying not to dirty everything in the beginning…I told him my water broke, we both could just not stop smiling as we knew it was baby time soon. I decided to take a shower and get myself cleaned up as I prepared for what I thought would be a marathon labour.
We went downstairs had some tea, while I prepared snacks and treats for the midwives and Carl. At this point I had no contractions…..As we talked, while drinking tea, I kept bouncing on my exercise ball and then….my water broke again……….this time with even more force…..I was so shocked, firstly because I just changed my clothes and secondly because my water broke again?!
I went upstairs to go change again and ran down only to have MORE water come out…..at this point I just couldn’t believe how much water was in my body…. and how much clothes I’ve gone through without any contractions. At 3:15 am contractions started. I downloaded this contraction timer app and it was just the best thing ever! It gave Carl something to do, without me hating on him for asking stupid questions. We called our midwife and we all decided she could wait a little bit before coming over..I could still easily talk through contractions and we were all preparing for the long haul.
I asked Carl to bring me two blocks of ice I ate one without a problem and threw the other one at Carl because it wasn’t a good size…..Yeah, labour brings out the monster in you.
The contractions were getting more and more intense. so I decided to get some relief from the pain in the shower….at one point I wanted to live in the shower, we called our midwife and told her its time to start heading over. I still didn’t feel like I was going to have the baby any time soon.
Soon after that everything started feeling way more intense, I remember thinking if I still have 5 – 12 hours left of this labour I’m just not going to make it, the sweet, sweet release of painkillers were looking pretty good to me right then. I kept thinking transition would be way more intense. so I didn’t even realise I was in the transition stage at that point.
Carl called the midwife again at that point because he was getting freaked out by my intense labour grunts……..I felt an insane need to push and felt down only to feel baby’s head.
I felt my entire body felt relieved and I just had this natural instinct that washed over me. As I shouted at Carl that the baby is here. He decided it was time to phone the midwife again to tell her what I said. I rushed out of the shower and felt like I needed to push. I pushed down once and felt the baby’s head coming out, I kept thinking I’m not stopping until his head is out. I screamed at a shocked Carl to get a towel as he ran the wrong way, I shouted again that its behind him. I told him to get ready for the baby as I gave one more push. Carl caught baby Arren at 4:20 am.
We were both so shocked at what just happened that we just sat there looking at our perfect baby that had a good cry and stopped as soon as he was in my arms. We just sat there crying saying how beautiful he is for what felt like an eternity……after the shock wore off I realised I was in a squat position not knowing what to do now…..we were both trying to figure out the placenta cord and if I could sit on it or not. We decided that staying in that position was safer.
Carl went to open the door for the midwives and a whole wave of relieve washed over me they instantly made me feel calm and relaxed. I was so happy to see them because I just didn’t know what to do next….I mean you plan for your baby not the placenta?
They helped me get up, made the bed extra comfy for me and baby and got us settled. They gave me angelica drops to help get the placenta out, but I was just so done with pushing. I was on one chilled out boat that would have ripped out the placenta at this time just so I wouldn’t have to push anymore.
I got into the squatting position and the placenta just dropped out.
He came out a whopping 3.89kg/8 pounds! 55 cm /21 inches tall and a head size that felt way bigger of 35 cm. He also got a 10/10 on his apgar score! Our healthy little chub monkey.
Hes just been pure bliss to have around. Its been hard at times, but everything is just worth it to see his little face.
We decided on the name Arren Yuki, before we ever started trying to have a baby. We actually have names ready for all our future children. Yeah we are those people! Arren means mountain warrior and Yuki means snow in Japanese. Our little baby was conceived in Ireland and the mountains that surround this beautiful city made our hearts race, and finally made us feel like we found the perfect home for us, in the most beautiful country to us. We chose Yuki as his second name because we were looking for snow all over Dublin and finally found it walking through Tick Knock forest, it was around that time we conceived little Arren. Japanese people also believe that your name reveals a part of your soul so our little snowflake will always be something special to us.
I never want to forget the day my heart grew so much bigger and that’s why I’m sharing it here.
P.S eating 6 dates a day really did give me a fast labour.
P.P.S If you’re looking for the most amazing midwife and assistant in Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa, the world. You should definitely contact Marianne at spiritual birth! From the beginning she made me feel at ease and helped me have an amazing pregnancy and birth. From what she suggests you eat during pregnancy to all her helpful tips on supplements she was just amazing. Check out her website here.