an instant of life captured for eternity

^^ Arren got a new hat.  He looks so cute and tubby.  He still hates the brightness.  I need to get him some baby sunglasses.

^^ In this photo he actually looks like he likes the bassinet, but this guy…this guy hates the bassinet.  He kicks the crap out of it while making a lot of displeasure sounds.  I don’t know what’s wrong with the bassinet, maybe his baby friends told him horror stories.

^^ I just love these little zipper outfits.  They’re just so convenient and easy to put on a cranky little baby.  They were such a mission to find in Cape Town, apparently they don’t sell well.  I don’t understand, they’re just the best! We even have some cute summer zipper outfits.

^^This is one of the short sleeve zipper outfits! Nothing cuter than baby shoes.

^^ Beautiful sunsets on an extremely windy day.

^^ Its a great day if you wind surf.

^^ I actually did my hair and make up, but it was so hot, windy and cold all that hard work for nothing!

Hi friends! How was your weekend? I feel like i haven’t done one of these posts in ages! Baby life has been crazy, but so much fun.  We actually went out twice this weekend! Twice! Can you believe it? Both of the trips were a complete bust,  Arren really, really doesn’t like any form of heat or wind! but hey, we made it out! that’s a miracle in itself!

 

 

One Month with Arren Yuki

I can’t believe little Arren is one month old.  Oh, how  time sure does fly!  Motherhood has definitely been the hardest job I’ve ever had.  I don’t know how people can look down at stay at home mothers like they do! Being needed constantly, never being able to take a break, having to be the nurturer, the cook, the maid and teacher without expecting anything in return is amazing!  and incredibly draining.  Giving yourself completely to your children so you can be there for them the whole time is a selfless act, that people have forgotten about.  A couple times during this month I’ve just wanted someone else to tap in for a bit, while I go and have a nice little break! Don’t get me wrong all mothers are amazing! It doesn’t matter if you’re a working mother or a stay at home mom, we’re all doing our best ! However we can!

The first month has just felt like Carl and I have been in survival mode, while we try and figure out this whole parenting thing and learn how to function without sleep!

It doesn’t help that baby Arren seems to just like being in my arms, when Carl tries to hold him he just screams away a storm, its actually really fun.  I’ll take this moment where I’m definitely the favourite! It feels good to win the favourite game right now, I know soon it will be all about Carl and I will be a distant memory, but that’s why cookies were created!

This month has been hard, but so amazing.  The last week or so I’ve finally felt like I’ve gotten the hang of this motherhood thing,  feel like I’m doing a pretty good job ( sometimes you have to pat yourself on the back).Bring on baby number 2!Just kidding.  The memory of his  giant baby head is still too clear in my mind! Give me 1 more month and I’ll be ready to go!  haha

Its been amazing seeing our beautiful son developing and growing everyday.  He is such a blessing to us and I can’t imagine life without him.  He’s the perfect third amigo to our little trinity.  He’s so strange and wonderful and my heart just burst with love every time I see him.  I’m so grateful to be his mother, he’s taught me so much already.  He’s shown me my strength and what I’m capable of.  Spending all my time with him is just the best thing ever.  There  really is never  a perfect time for a baby.  Yes, he was planned, but things just completely went crazy when we found out I was pregnant, things are still uncertain, but by having him everything has just become clear to us.  Being led by God and trusting his guidance has really made us stronger as a family, and gave us the biggest blessing of all.  I cant imagine our life without this guy!

ARREN ONE MONTH UPDATE

  • This little guy is such a grabber.  He grabs my hair, Carl’s chest hair and he’s even pinched the crap out of me.
  • He’s got all the expressions!  He just pulls the funniest faces all the time, since day one he’s been really observant.
  • He like going on tours of the house and have everything explained to him while he rubbernecks and looks at everything!
  • Bounces are his jam!  He loves all kinds of bounces and hates it when you start slowing down.
  • When he senses the attention is not on him for a second, he starts crying.  Don’t talk about politics and not pay attention to this guy.
  • He’s all smiles and makes the cutest coos.   You can see the difference between a gas smile and a real smile! Its insane!
  • He’s got such a strong little neck, and loves being in the over the shoulder burbing angle.  Sometimes he just whines, until he’s over the shoulder.
  • He’s a really vocal baby, he seems to want to talk sooo badly.
  • He’s trying to potty train himself.  He hates peeing inside his diaper and will scream until we open the diaper up and he can go outside his diaper.  Burb cloths? Should be called pee and poop cloths.
  • He likes all the snuggles and cuddles, he can get.
  • He hates the heat.  Hes so happy on colder days, I cant blame him…he signed up for Ireland.

I just cant wait for more developments and watching this sweet little angel grow.

 

Birthdays and the season to give

On Wednesday I celebrated my Birthday! I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by. Carl made a pretty accurate statement the other day,  saying this has been the fastest, yet slowest year ever….and even if that doesn’t make much sense its completely true.  This year has been rough for us, I mean Ireland was amazing, but being back in South Africa has been exhausting and tough.  When we first got back we tried to rent the cheapest place we could find only to find out we were not even gonna be able to afford it, we were living pay check to pay check, and not getting anything out.  We could hardly feed ourselves, and with the news of baby we had to put money aside to get all the baby things we needed and prepare for all the medical costs.  If it wasn’t for Carl’s parents that assisted us we wouldn’t have been able to eat at all.    Our money situation has gotten better, but everything else is still crazy here, I have faith everything will work out, but its hard not to feel run down, from the constant bad luck we’ve had here.

So this year for my Birthday, because there is nothing I wanted to do in Cape Town and even though things have been extremely hard for us all I wanted to do was help the incredible amount of homeless people in Cape Town. Sometimes you just have to pay it forward.   I got all the ingredients together and decided to make food packs and have ice cold water ready to give to anyone in need.  I have to admit that during our long car ride stuck in the most insane African heat, I really wanted to crack open all those bottles of water and just go to town!  I showed some restraint and just suffered through the heat.  As we were driving trying to find the usual beggars that knock on your window asking for money, we realised as soon as you want to give people stuff they are nowhere in sight!  I couldn’t believe what an easy drive we had!

We finally decided to go to this one park that we know a lot of the homeless sleep at, and off we set to try and give people food.  It was really strange for me to try and get out of my comfort zone and actually go up to people to ask them if they were hungry, the guy that gave me the confidence I needed was a young man that was looking through all the trash cans for something to eat. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the look of complete gratitude on this mans face as he said yes, and scurried off so fast, to go eat his food.  After that we felt confident and walked up to all the people sleeping on the grass with all their worldly belongings in a grocery bags, and offered them the sandwiches.  They all seemed so eager and happy, as they said God bless and thank you.  I was sad when we ran out of our care packages, but Carl and I both decided we want to do this more often.  My heart felt so full as I almost waddled along in the heat of the day at 9 months pregnant, giving people a meal that was specially  prepared for them.

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^^ Pre-Birthday sunflowers and a card.  I felt so loved! I got three cards from Carl for my Birthday.  Usually he gets me no cards, I started feeling like I was in a cardless marriage.

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^^ I made a raw carrot cake for my birthday! It was sooooo good.  Who needs sugar or gluten! Seriously! This is sooo much better.

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^^ Would you like a bite.

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^^ We collected some pine cones for our little mantel to add a bit of holiday cheer.

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^^ Birthday selfie!

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^^ The food packages contained.  A fresh sandwich, banana, a Christmas cookie, crisps and a some small candies.

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^^ Baby’s first food drive. img_5201new

^^ My belly looks all wonky here, but what you gonna do! I’m growing a human!

Soon I will have another member in my December birthday gang!

Pondering about things

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Being back in South Africa has not been easy for me. Things have just been crazy out of control, from arriving at Joburg airport being treated so rudely by almost every staff member for no apparent reason, maybe it was my smile, no one likes a smiling person these day; To trying to find a place to live in Cape town, that’s kind of affordable, close and doesn’t require the soul of your first born child in the lease agreement.  Finding a place in Cape town was extremely difficult, credit checks, bank statements from 2 years ago, a landlord that just didn’t want to give us the go ahead and a deposit that’s more affordable than all the other places, but still a small fortune.  We finally managed to get the apartment and the beautiful view makes up for all the trouble.

I know things will start looking up again, but dealing with so many rude people has been hard, so I’ve been trying the pay it forward technique.  Treat people with kindness and the way you would want to be treated, like letting someone in front of you in a queue, because they have way less stuff than you and hoping that they will start doing the little things to make peoples day a little better.  Maybe we are just staying at the unhappy side of the mountain?

It really hasn’t helped that I’ve been feeling so sick throughout this experience, but all this shall pass and life will be right on track again.

10 things I love about Dublin

Its been a week since we’ve left Dublin and I can honestly tell you it still feels like a part of me is missing! Dublin stole a piece of my heart and I can’t wait to go back there some day.  As we start to ease into normal life here in Cape Town, I often think about Dublin and wonder what’s it doing right at this time.  Is Dublin raining on enough people, is the constant weather mood swings driving people nuts or has everyone finally seen the beauty that Dublin has to offer, so here is my list of reasons why I love Dublin.

10 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT DUBLIN

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  1.  Daffodils everywhere.  I can’t get enough of all the beautiful daffodils all around Dublin.  Its like a yellow field of happiness.
  2. Church bells ringing.  Hearing church bells always ringing and some even ringing in a hymn.  Its sure a lot nicer on the ears than sirens.
  3. Cathedrals.  Stained glass, architecture, the history these cathedrals are all wonderful to explore and all of them are amazingly unique in their own special way.
  4. Grafton Street buskers.  Grafton Street is filled with the most talented musicians you will ever come across.  I mean these guys are so good, they would make every future rockstar try a little harder.
  5. The accent.  The wonder accent of the Irish! Its like a song on the ears and the further you get out of Dublin the more and more difficult in gets to understand what people are saying.
  6. Polite people.  Dublin is filled with the most polite people you will ever meet. People make an effort to stop for you as a pedestrian, someone is always letting you go in front of them at the grocery store, just because you don’t have as much groceries as they do and the honour code is strong in Dublin, all around you, you see people following the rules and taking pride in it.
  7. Scenery.  The scenery all over Dublin is breathtaking and most things are just a quick train, bus or walk trip away.  From amazing cliff walks to pebbly beaches.
  8. Most of the museums are free.  Explore the national gallery and see Van Gogh, Picasso and a Monet painting, with many more gems waiting to make you feel like a pretentious art student.  Or go and look at the bog bodies and the Museum of archaeology.  There is so much to do, but so little time!
  9. Parks.  There are so many different parks all over Dublin worth exploring.  These parks are amazing to walk through and even better to people watch.
  10.  Castles galore! It feels like everywhere you look in Dublin there is a castle waiting to be explored and who doesn’t love a castle?

I’m starting to feel like I’m having Dublin withdrawals!

Birthdays, Pizza and the Greening

Yesterday was Carl’s birthday! All he wanted to do for his birthday was go walk around the city at night and go for a slice of some New York style pizza.  What a lucky guy to be in Dublin and be born so close to St Patrick’s day! all the buildings were still lit up in green for St Patrick’s day, the city was still a buzz with all the tourists drinking in public and being especially weird, but in a delightful way.

The day didn’t start off that great, I woke up with an insane migraine, one of those I’ve lost my vision in one eye, bad boys and decided to sleep it off while Carl headed off to church.  I woke up 3 hours later to feel much better and wait for the birthday boy to get back! I asked my parents to send me ingredients for peppermint crisp tart from South Africa and made Carl his favourite dessert! I forgot to get some birthday candles, but sometimes a tea light will work just as well.

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I’m so grateful for Carl.  He is an amazing husband, I mean he’s so good at it, he should get paid for it!, a great friend, a wonderful listener, extremely caring and just the best, funniest guy that I’m so happy to have in my life.  I’m feeling sappy today so…

There are a million reasons why I love Carl, but here are my top 6 reasons.

I love Carl, because he always listens to my rants even when I talk about 5 different things at once.  He will give his opinion on each topic, like I’m not crazy at all.

I love Carl, because he’s caring and always ready to play.

I love Carl, because we make such a great team.  He’s always the calm when I feel like an emotional wreck.

I love Carl, because he’s so loving and always makes me feel special.

I love Carl, because he’s my other half.  He completes me perfectly, we are extremely alike, but we make each other better.

I love Carl, because he’s one of kind.  Slightly awkward, but with a whole lot of soul.

I’m so glad he’s stuck with me for eternity!

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^^ I had a 7 up!

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^^ Big ol’ pizza!

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^^ Dublin lights

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^^ The greening!

Oh deer, its Phoenix Park

The other day we decided to get ourselves back to Phoenix Park, this time with some carrots in our bag and a less frightened attitude.  I tend not to trust skittish animals, with fighting weapons on their heads,  but we persevered and had an incredible day.

Phoenix park is an amazing park its incredibly huge and amazing.  Its filled with wonderful things to explore including the Wellington Monument and the popes cross. If you are into monstrous towering things, these two things will make you gasp!  We ended up having a small picnic by the cross,  bringing a packed lunch is so old school, but so worth it, you never know where you will have an impromptu picnic.  With all the walking we do in Dublin we are ravenous almost all the time so we have some kind of treat with us at all times. You never want to be hangry when you have an hour walk back home, your husband will start looking like a monster that’s starving you after a while.

We skipped the first herd of deer, because they looked rather fat with the amount of carrots they’ve been fed and went exploring, Carl decided to try his tracking skills and assured me only one deer passed through the wooded area, while I was pointing towards the 30 deer just relaxing on a rugby field.  These deer seemed to not have had the sweet taste of carrot in a long time and came rushing towards us, while I desperately tried to get a carrot out in time.  Getting surrounded by deer is not fun, but fun all at the same time.  I did learn to get out of a sticky situation with greedy deer is to treat them like dogs and throw carrots like a ball, they go running after it, while you can make a clear run out of there.

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^^ a tiny Carl.

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^^ Dublin has made me extremely dog crazy.  I feel like running after ever dog I see, screaming let me stroke you!

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^^ A lovely stream.

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^^ Carl found this branch and went a little crazy.  This is his Gandalf impression.

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^^ His harry potter impression.

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^^ and this is me trying to lift the branch, it was really heavy.

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^^Woody photos are always amazing.

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^^Carl, the deer training gentleman.

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^^ Dublin is like a disney movie.

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^^ It seems like Carl is slapping the deer with carrot.

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^^ A triangle of deer.

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^^ Trying to leave unnoticed.  It didn’t work.

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^^ When you have a bag of carrots in your hands all eyes will be on you.

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^^ Towering Cross.  We sat at the top of the stairs had a little prayer and enjoyed a delicious lunch.

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^^ Two birds just chilling at the top.

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^^The view.