You can’t be pregnant forever…..but it sure feels like it.

Pregnancy is a funny thing.  For some, they just hate pregnancy from the get go, for me? I’ve really loved being pregnant.  Until my due date came and all of a sudden it felt like I’ve been pregnant for a lifetime.  Its hard waiting for baby when you’re constantly getting pestered from EVERYONE; asking if you’ve had the baby, why haven’t you had the baby and that the baby keeps getting bigger the longer he cooks inside.  I’ve been surprisingly calm throughout everyone’s little remarks and just kept saying baby will come when baby wants to come, but man, its starting to feel like I’ve got a 30 year old living inside me that just doesn’t want to move out and expects me to serve it  whatever it wants while I get kicked and punched the whole time.

I’m still here and I’m still waiting for baby, I’ve now tried all the natural methods for inducing baby, just to give baby a little nudge, but alas baby isn’t ready to face the big world yet, so I’m going to give baby the time he needs to keep on cooking.   This will not last forever and I’m so eager to meet my little baby, but right now I will enjoy the last bits of this pregnancy.   Even if I feel like a small bus with a really odd shaped belly button.

^^ We all need the cliche baby bump holding pic..Right?

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^^ We will just lovingly stare at bunny until we have baby.

35 Week Pregnancy Update

The final countdown has begun! baby will be here in about a month and the time for panic has kicked in!  I can’t believe how much we still need to get done and that we waited a bit too long with our second batch of cloth diapers. We found this amazing affordable cloth diaper company, that had really amazing packages for around the same price as what we bought our second hand cloth diapers for, but these diapers are brand new, comes in amazing colours and the reviews are just great, unfortunately with all the procrastination we were doing, most of the diapers are sold out!  Let this be a lesson kids, never say you will buy something later, sometimes later is a little bit too late!  We can’t seem to find another cloth diaper company that’s as affordable so we will have to stock up on more biodegradable diapers before baby A arrives.

I’ve also been in full nesting mode and nothing is surviving the rampage I’m on.  I even started buffing Carl’s laptop clean.  Yes, things have gotten out of hand.

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^^ This baby is so high up.

After doing a lot of research, I’m always up for an experience;  I’ve decided on doing a month of confinement when the baby arrives.  The whole process makes a lot of sense to me, so I’ve been raiding all our Chinese grocers,  stocking up on a lot of confinement herbs, I’m not going to go completely authentic in it, but I’ve made a couple of western adjustments to the diet and rules to suit my needs a little better.  I’m really excited to try it out and have the month to bond with baby, while letting my body heal and putting heat back into my body after my home birth.

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Speaking about home birth, I’ve finally started getting my home birth supplies!  I was waiting until my last midwife appointment for them to tell me if everything is fine and that baby A is still in the head down position.  Well I got the heads down, A okay I needed and just started buying all the “wonderful” incontinent supplies I needed!  Nothing makes you feel like a grown up like standing in line with a trolley full of linen savers, adult diapers, a plastic fitted sheet, gauze and surgical spirits.  The cashier must have been wondering what I’m up to!

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How far along? 35 weeks! Almost time to meet this little baby.

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Weight? I’ve actually been really consistent with my weight and kept losing weight or staying the same, I only gained some weight with my last appointment.

Cravings? Still craving watermelon, mangoes, pears, grapes and Ice.  I’m about to hop on a plane in search of mangoes, I’m getting that desperate.

How I’m feeling? I’m feeling really prepared and ready to meet this baby! This last trimester has been a rough one!  I’m constantly hungry and need to snack the whole time just to stay functional.  To be honest I’m getting really tired of eating! I feel like I’m getting jaw muscles.  I’ve still been eating healthy food, so no gluten, no sugar, clean eating meals that keep me going and doesn’t make me feel pooped.  Even Carl loves this diet, he’s looking better than ever, his hair is shiny as can be and he seems to be losing wrinkles!  I’m definitely going to continue eating this way when the baby arrives.

Sleep? I’m still sleeping pretty well, I just get up more often to use the loo, but I fall asleep almost instantly after.

Maternity Clothes? I’m wearing my maternity jeans often and a couple of dresses, but I’m mostly just wearing clothes I wore pre pregnancy.

Best Moment? Finishing up the baby mobile, painting the baby dresser and sorting out little things in the baby’s room.  Finding out our baby’s got a small head.

Worst Moment? Getting the pregnancy rash on my tummy….Its so unpleasant, combine that with the unattractive veins popping out all over my body, it makes you realise anyone who ever said pregnancy was beautiful was a giant liar.  I’ve been trying out mama naturals methods for getting rid of the rash and it seems to be working.  I also got an allergic reaction at church that left me with a swollen face, thanks to all the proteas and fynbos flower arrangements all over the show.  I’m allergic to South Africa’s national flowers, good job body.

Movement? So much movement! This baby doesn’t seem to like loud noises or people speaking in loud tones ( Shouting) and really lets me have it when I’m around anything baby doesn’t like.

I can’t wait to meet this little person soon!

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Found this really inexpensive chest of drawers for the baby’s room and gave it a little make over.

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^^ I wanted more of a woodland green, but I just didn’t have enough paint stainer to get it there.  Happy surprises, because I really like the way it turned out.  Later on I spray painted the knobs gold.  Walking around with a face mask, while pregnant felt like a ridiculous sight, but things need to get done!

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^^ Nursery break! I’ve been desperately looking for a fiddle fig tree, with no luck at all.  I’ll find you my beautiful planty friend!

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^^ Made the best sugar free, gluten free pumpkin pie bars ever! It was like magic in my mouth, the gingery crust, made me feel like crying tears of happiness! I was floating my own boat hard while thinking I’m a recipe genius!

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^^ My cute little kitchen friends.

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^^ Protein shake in the baby’s room!

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^^ Kind of done with the baby’s mobile, I still feel like I’m missing one little woodland friend? What do you think?

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^^ The guinea fowl family on our walk again, these guys really know how to make you feel bad, when you try to pass them, and they all scatter like you’re the biggest murderer on this planet.

Hi friends!  Whew! Its been a couple of days hasn’t it?  I’ve just been so busy with all lives demands and trying to get everything ready for the baby! I still feel like I have so much to do and buy!  I’m starting to feel just a tad overwhelmed, but I downloaded the hypnobabies app on my phone and its just the best thing to listen to!

I feel like this week has been a whirlwind for the entire world……I try to keep my blog neutral and easy, but what is going on with the world? I’m still in so much shock about the US elections and the effect this will have on all the other countries and I just can’t believe people chose fear again so soon after brexit.  In the beginning of the year I couldn’t wait to see what humans were going to do next and now, I’m like how is such a racist, sexist, completely insane man, going to be president? but who knows maybe this will be the time were people stand together and realise fear is not the answer, we should live with kindness and treat people kindly.   Okay! Rant over!  I felt like I needed to say something about all the craziness right now!  Things will get better, the earth is too beautiful to not care!

Tips for dealing with stress during pregnancy

We all experience stress in our lives from time to time, but constant stress is not healthy and stressing during pregnancy can be linked to preterm labour and a lower birth weight, I seriously read that and think “I can’t believe with statements like that, that everyone expects me to be calm”.  Stress during pregnancy is just the worst, because most of the time with the insane amount of hormones swimming around your body trying to make you emotional for silly things you end up crying and feeling horrible about everything.  I’m your typical type A personality and we all know that stands for typical type Anal about everything personality.  I like things to get done and when it doesn’t I start wondering how people can live in such an unorganised world!  but the world is unorganised and that’s one of the reasons its a wonderful adventure to be on, so here is some of my tips to just relax and de-stress yourself during pregnancy.

TIPS FOR DEALING WITH STRESS DURING PREGNANCY

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  1. Relax: This is one I have a hard time with, there is just so much to do all the time and allowing myself some time to unwind when so much still needs to get done has been hard.  Sometimes I kind of forget I’m pregnant, but pregnancy is hard on your body and its just something you have to embrace.  Enjoy some me time, put your feet up and forget about everything that needs to get done. Tomorrow is another day!
  2. Get outside:  I’ve traded in my pregnancy workout for daily walks instead.  Getting outside when I can really gives me some time to clear my head.  The fresh air seems to clear up any mind fogginess.
  3. Ask for help: Your husband/partner/friend is not a mind reader, most of the time they can’t tell we need help; especially if we keep going on like we’re completely fine.  Ask your husband for a little more help around the house or anything you really need, they will understand and be happy to help.  I’ve been having moments when I’m just too tired to make dinner after a long day, at first I got angry at the fact that Carl can’t make anything edible, after that I decided to teach him how to cook and the basics of cooking.  It seems like a lot of work, but he seems to be enjoying it and I get to delegate and help him be able to feed himself a healthy meal when I’m not around. Every problem has a solution when you have a clear head and don’t get mad about it.  Figure it out!
  4. Meditate: Meditation is a hard one for me, I can never get my mind silent enough to be able to just relax! Somehow, lately with construction happening in the front of us and to the side, with the loudest construction workers screaming at each other and my peak stress level jumping through the roof I managed to do my own kind of meditation.  I put on some music and just have a moment on my yoga mat, doing some prenatal yoga, and a little bit of mind clearing meditation.  Find your own kind of meditation, for some people its getting in the zone and cleaning their house, who knows how you can personally find your inner peace.  I feel like I’m becoming a true yogi with that statement.  Namaste.
  5. Treat yo’self:  With everything revolving around your unborn child at the moment its easy to forget to take care of yourself.  It can be something as simple as taking a hot bath and just relaxing or it can be buying yourself something that makes you feel beautiful while being pregnant ( sometimes that feels like a difficult task).  For me it was splurging on a pair of amazing maternity pants, that actually fit properly and doesn’t have that hint of hideousness that comes with maternity clothes.
  6. Educate yourself: Read all the books, google, google, google, talk to friends with babies or your midwife/obgyn, just find out everything you need to know or are concerned about.  At the same time, don’t get too scared about the what if’s, because the internet will always tell you something simple is a tumour, educate yourself, but take everything with a grain of salt. If you’re concerned ask your obgyn, they will most likely put your mind at ease.  Now go feed your growing tumour baby.  Thanks internet.
  7. People will give you their advice:  Sometimes the biggest stress is a good meaning, slightly mean person who tells you what you’re doing is wrong, trust that what you’re doing is the best way for YOU and do it!  Laugh all the silly comments off.
  8. Avoid trigger people or situations: if you feel overly stressed out around a certain situation, avoid it! Be a little selfish, you are growing a baby! This is the time you should easily be able to avoid something for the good of your baby and yourself.
  9. Talk to someone: Sometimes the best thing you can do is just talk to someone you trust about all your concerns, get it all out and let them tell you, you’re being silly.
  10. Eat a balanced diet: Drink plenty of water during pregnancy to lessen pregnancy symptoms, eat food that will make you feel good, instead of feel good right now.
  11. Trust that everything will work out the way its supposed to.  Believe in Gods plan and have faith in yourself.

I hope these tips will help any soon to be mama out there be able to start relaxing and de-stressing.  Go on! Go take that bath/ binge watch netflix you deserve it!

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Weekends are made for gluten free, sugar free graham crackers.  These were so yum!

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^^ Our neighbourhood beach was way to bright for Carl.

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^^ The sand was so difficult to walk on, but so worth it.

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^^ Pretty mountains and such a blue ocean.  Wow.

 

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^^ Pretty flowers on our evening walk.

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^^ I love this little neighbourhood, it gives me such an old school European feel.  All the kids playing on the streets, people constantly walking around and just a wonderful sense of community, and the cutest little houses you’ve ever seen.

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^^ A bit of a commotion on the beach thanks to a dog running after this train trying to bite at it.  I’ve never actually seen a train slow down for a dog before.  The dog survived the ordeal.

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^^ Magical.

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^^ Pretty flowers on the beach.

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^^ A pretty sky right in front of our little house.

Hey friends! How was your weekend? Did you get up to anything interesting? We had a completely overwhelming weekend filled with all the house things we are still trying to get done.  I’ve painted baby A’s room, but have been confused about painting the wooden ceiling or not, I really think the roof needs to be painted white to open up and brighten up this space, but at the same time I’m wondering if the wooden ceiling will go more with the woodland theme we’ve got going on in there.   So far I’m 95% in favour of painting it white.  What do you think? Should I paint it?

We’ve had glorious cooler weather here, that we’ve just been loving!  It would have been even better if we had our couch by now.  Ordering stuff online in South Africa is such a pain, in America you’ve got drone deliveries here we have to wait an unnaturally long time for anything to arrive!  We’ve also been trying to get a telephone line installed for internet, but wow its turned into the biggest deal! We apparently have to wait 5 – 21 days.   What kind of timeline is that? It doesn’t even make sense to me! Oh well! Everything is a lesson, and right now I’m learning how to have patience.

Here’s to another week! I hope this one is just as great.

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Pretty flowers on our first walk around the new hood.

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^^ Found this cute little conservation area close to our new house.  We also found a huge snake that made me almost poop my pants.

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^^ Green grass and mountains.

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^^ We were really exhausted from moving from a top floor apartment, but we still took the time to go for a walk and really relax.

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^^ Shrubbery everywhere.

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^^ The wind was really intense and it was so humid and hot in this little conservation area it was such a drastic change.

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^^ The beach close to our house.

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^^ First selfie on the balcony.

Hello wonderful people! How are you all today? I hope you had a great weekend and your Monday goes by faster than it showed up!We finally moved into our new little house amongst the mountains, after a gruelling two days, thanks to the old tenants leaving this place in a horrid state and me going into must sanitise house completely for baby mode, we are finally a bit settled.  I always assumed its etiquette to clean a house before you leave it? Apparently not.  I’m usually 5 seconds away from leaving chocolates on the pillows for new tenants when I leave a place.  With all the chaos and our internet not being set up yet we haven’t watched general conference yet, but with instagram always showing us little snippets it seems like a good one! I can’t wait to watch it.

This pregnancy has brought out a horrible monster inside of me, I just can’t stop ignorance and silly comments to do with the fact that we don’t want to know the baby’s gender, that we want to keep things gender neutral even though we’ve been getting boy coloured outfits that just boggles my mind and the fact that I don’t want kitschy character printed outfits.  I never understand why people have to say obscene, hurtful, ignorant things and afterwards say they’re only joking, its like Freud says: There are no jokes.  Well not in circumstances like this most of the time people just say what they want not worrying how it comes across just so they can cover it up with saying its a joke. Why can’t we all just be respectful? Is it really that hard?  Pregnancy hormone rant over!

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Nature, always impressing me with its vibrant display of colour.  We should all plant bougainvillea as a fence, it will make the world so much prettier.

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^^ Found this pretty flower on the ground.  Just look at that colour.

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^^ Walks in Tokai forest.  They are planning on felling all these trees.  It brings a lot of sadness to my tree hugging heart.

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^^ Mesmerised.

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^^ Find beauty everywhere.

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^^ We found a log to sit on to enjoy our little picnic lunch.  Kale salad and almonds for me and a rye bread sandwich for him.

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^^ Enjoying his sandwich.

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^^ You know your husband loves you if he is willing to carry a heavy stump back to the car, because with a little work this stump will be turned into a side table.  Thanks Carl!

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^^ Pretty flowers on a walk to the waterfront.  A contrast of colours.

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^^One of my favourite photos! Feet in the forest.

Hey friends! What did you guys do this weekend?  We’ve been preparing for our move in 2 weeks and trying to buy everything at just the right moment so it will be delivered on the day we move in! Hopefully it all works out perfectly, otherwise this pregnant lady will be sleeping on the floor! We decided to go to Tokai forest before they start felling, so we can walk around the forest and be happy amongst all the trees.  I’m really sad that they want to cut down all the pine trees in Cape town for fynbos, but that’s just because I’m horribly allergic to it and it feels like Cape town is slowly trying to kill me, but we are only planning on staying here for a year or two so hopefully all the felling gets delayed and I get to enjoy all the trees until we leave.  Hopefully!

 

Surviving the First Trimester of Pregnancy

It feels like a million years ago since the first trimester, but boy, do I remember it.  The irrational anger and emotion, feeling like I’m going totally insane, falling asleep in a yoga position ( Yes, it happened and it was surprisingly comfortable), the total exhaustion, the need to wear comfy clothes and the totally ridiculous nausea just to tie it all together in the perfect little package of ” making a baby is HARD”.  I’m here to tell you it does get easier and that soon you will feel like your old self again ( Hello, Second trimester).

I managed to make all the symptoms of the dreaded first trimester as easy as possible by making little changes that made all the difference, and I don’t think its fair to keep it all to myself.  So here is my top ten tips for surviving the first trimester, or making it a little easier.

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  1. Coconut water: Staying hydrated is really important during pregnancy and coconut water seemed to just make me feel so much better.  Loaded with potassium and electrolytes it even gave me the tiny energy boost I needed and it just tasted so much better than actual water to me.
  2. Rest:  When you have time just take naps, even if its a quick car nap during your lunch time. You’re growing a human its hard work don’t feel bad, you will regret not taking those naps when the insomnia kicks in later in your pregnancy.
  3. Eat often:  Yes, it seems like the worst idea ever, but every time I got hit with nausea it could have been prevented with just eating something.  I realised just because I don’t feel hungry doesn’t mean I’m not hungry.  Eating small meals made the nausea bearable and made me feel human.  Find the meals that don’t repulse you and nibble on that.  I made a whole meal, only to throw the entire thing away, because I couldn’t stand the look and smell of it.  Give yourself a break and eat what you can.
  4. Healthy treats: Try not to go overboard with your cravings, its probably the things that are making you feel sick.  Find healthy sugar free recipes and make yourself a treat that’s actually good for you, but if you’re really craving something and you cave, don’t beat yourself up!
  5. Ginger: Ginger is a lifesaver during the first trimester, it helps with nausea and can be taken in so many different forms.  Throw fresh ginger in your smoothie, make ginger tea, drink ginger ale or just have a ginger candy.  The possibilities are endless.
  6. Exercise: The last thing you want to do is exercise, I know, but exercise really helps fight fatigue and the good old first trimester blues.  Get active! Go for a quick walk around the block or go for a hike, but if you really can’t even think about exercising, just remember that’s what the second trimester is for.
  7. Prenatal Vitamins: when you’re feeling so blah and all you’ve eaten the whole day is crackers, having taken your prenatal vitamins makes everything better during the first trimester, it gives baby all he or she needs and gives you ease of mind.  Find a prenatal vitamin that works for you.
  8. Protein: Getting enough protein in pregnancy is very important and when you’re not feeling your best it can be really hard.  Drinking my protein shake will give you that boost you need, and because its a thinner shake you don’t have to worry about the consistency making you gag.  If you can’t drink a shake dip your crackers in peanut butter or have a handful of nuts during the day.
  9. Snacks: Keep snacks with you at all time!  Even when you don’t think you will be out for that long, having something to snack on really helps prevent nausea.
  10. Just go with:  This is an exciting new phase of your life if its your first baby or your fifth it doesn’t matter every pregnancy is different so find out what works for you, keep your stress levels down and just go with it!

I hope these tips and tricks can give you the little boost you need!

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Surprise beach days.  Clear blue water in between the mountain.

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^^ We weren’t dressed for the beach at all!

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^^Trying to flatten my wind swept hair.

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^^ Morning hikes.  No time for make up when you need to get hiking.

 

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^^ Pretty little flowers on our hike.

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^^ We are moving at the end of this month, but that didn’t stop me from getting this sweet little bassinet.

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^^ Lots of surfers….Not a lot of waves…

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^^ I kept running around trying to find a perfect sized rock, Carl kept screaming after me to stop running.

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^^ Flowers on the beach.

Hello friends! How was your weekend? We had a very active weekend of hiking, ocean time and getting some stuff for our baby.  We’ve been trying to get a hike in every weekend and seeing how far we can go before my insane need to pee starts to kick in.  Every weekend we get a little further and every return I tend to almost run home to the comfort of the loo.  On Sunday we had big plans to go to this specific picnic area, but after getting lost, not being able to find a loo ANYWHERE, we somehow ended up driving along the ocean on the most magical ocean drive ever!  Sometimes the things that aren’t planned work out even better.  All the wild flowers all around the Cape has made even the most mundane tasks amazing.

24 Weeks Baby Bump / Baby #1

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This pregnancy has been surprisingly good to me, knock on wood.  I wasn’t completely bowled over with nausea in the first trimester, don’t get me wrong I had some nausea, but it wasn’t that bad, it was nothing eating a snack couldn’t fix.  I’ve gotten heartburn once, hated that hour so much that I decided no more and fixed it with diet.  I’ve been exercising regularly, and that’s helped me feel, oh so good and I’ve only been eating healthy meals.   What you put in you get out!  The only symptom I’ve had recently was actually last night, I was lying on my back for too long and my blood pressure dropped, causing me to have a whole lot of the nausea and dizziness, after sitting outside for a bit it soon passed, but man did it feel bad!

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It felt like the baby had a growth spurt this week and I finally popped!Maybe now people will stop loudly talking and pointing at me saying that I look bloated….I’m growing a human!  Speaking about growing a human, this baby sure likes kicking me, the only time baby A stops is when Carl tries to feel, this baby really likes making me look like a crazy person.  Being constantly kicked from the inside sure is something else.  So far everything looks good with baby and me, so good in fact that I finally found a pair of maternity skinny jeans that doesn’t fit like a sack.  I can only thank H&M for the gloriously wonderful pants they’ve created! Thank you!

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Highlights of this pregnancy so far:

  • Seeing the baby on the ultrasound and finding out everything is A okay with baby.  It was such a touching moment and I really thought I wouldn’t have much emotion, but boy did it tug at my heart string, Seeing our active little baby just swimming around trying to escape being viewed was the best moment so far.
  • Feeling the baby kick.  I’m not sure if baby A loves classical music or hates it.   I get kicked a little harder every time I play classical music.
  • Feeling healthy and fit, being grateful to my body for growing this little life and doing such a good job so far.
  • Seeing how excited and happy Carl is when he talks, feels or looks at the scan photo.  I’ve never seen him this happy before!  He even has the scan photo as his phone background.
  • Getting everything ready for the baby.  We finally found a new place and we are moving into it in October! We are really excited to get it baby ready!