an unexpected Lotus Birth

One thing that was not in my birth plan or after birth plan was a lotus birth.  The idea of carting around a placenta was just a little too much for me, but its strange how things change as soon as that baby is out of you.  How I thought things were going to be and how they actually turned out in reality is way different.  I didn’t think our baby would hate a bassinet so much, or scratch his dad right in the face,  while screaming bloody murder just because he’s not mommy.  Apparently Arren doesn’t care about Carl’s feelings.

After I birthed the placenta our midwife convinced us to do a lotus birth, at that point of time I was just so grateful that they were there that I would have done anything they said.   Our midwife explained the whole process of caring for the placenta to us and off we set to an unplanned lotus birth.

I’m not going to lie the first day with the placenta was rough, we had to figure out how to manoeuvre with the placenta and being the typical new parents we were completely paranoid and didn’t know what to do.  At one point I felt like crying because I didn’t feel like I could console Arren fast enough, but at the end I was completely happy we did it and gave it a try.

 

“We need to relearn what a birth can be like when it is not disturbed by the cultural milieu. We need a reference point from which we should try not to deviate too much. Lotus Birth is such a reference point.” Michel Odent

When I was speaking to my sister about our lotus birth I was quite shocked to find out that she didn’t even know what the placenta looked like, it was strange to me that during her birth it was taken away like it was something dirty and that shouldn’t be seen.  This was your baby’s lifeline for so many months, when my midwife showed me all the healthy veins, the sack where Arren called home for so long, I was completely mesmerised.  It was such an amazing thing to see and I was so happy my midwife showed me everything and explained it to me.

A lot of lotus birth posts talks about baby’s being friends with their placenta, but to us it seemed like Arren hated his placenta.  He acted like the only reason he came out of the womb was to escape from his evil placenta girlfriend, and like he just couldn’t figure out why were keeping it around.

REASONS I LOVED OUR LOTUS BIRTH

  1. It reminded me to take things slower and be more aware of my surroundings.
  2. It was a perfect uninterrupted bonding time with our new little family without having to deal with guests.
  3. It gave us time to get to know each other and figure out breastfeeding without having the stress of having to entertain people.
  4. It made Carl feel more involved.  He helped me move Arren around or helped move the placenta.
  5. It forced me to take it easy and let my body heal.
  6. The placenta and cord fell off after 3 days and he was left with the cutest little belly button.
  7. Being connected with his lifeline for so many months, until it was ready to fall off was amazing.
  8. Delays cord clamping letting baby get all the last bits of blood

HOW WE CARED FOR THE CORD AND PLACENTA

It wasn’t that difficult caring for the placenta or cord.  Carl made a little placenta bag to make the placenta look a bit festive and easier to transport.   We dropped a couple of drops of lavender essential oil on the placenta every day and we used wecesin powder to dry up the cord.  Wecesin powder is just the best thing to use for the cord, its all natural and helped speed up healing.  Once the placenta fell off we used a drop of lavender oil and a cotton bud to clean and disinfected the belly button and that’s it!  We buried the placenta under a tree in our garden in hopes that the nutrients would help give the tree some life in this drought filled times we’re having in Cape Town.

 

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ A daily walk that ended up at the beach…again…. We’re not even beach people, but when its cloudy we love it!  I also took my new diaper bag out for a spin.  It held everything! Even my camera!

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^^ I accidentally painted my baby bump! Whoops

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^^ Carl turns into a model on windy days.

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^^ This seagull was walking so gently on the wet sand, it was like he really didn’t want to get dirty.  I feel you little guy.

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^^ Every morning its cloudy, but by the afternoon the wind seems to have blown away all the clouds, come on clouds! We need rain! stand strong.

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^^ I don’t know what was the deal with these geese, but Carl thought they wanted bread, I was convinced I saw murder in their eyes, while I ran away screaming this is the worst day!!!!

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^^ Pretty memorial flowers left behind on a bench.

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^^ Walking, walking, walking!

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^^ Pretty flowers on the side of the road.  Nature is always trying to prettify ugly things up.

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^^ Gluten free, Sugar free pumpkin bread.  This tasted delicious, but was a little bit too soft in the middle! Back to the drawing board!

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^^ Enjoying a watermelon lunch, wondering when will mangoes be in season! My craving is killing me! I can’t even find one overly priced out of season imported from who knows where mango lying around somewhere!

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^^ Always matching.  We found a baby pair! Soon baby will be matching to! Sorry baby.

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^^ Beautiful light.

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^^ Geese ignoring Carl.

Hi friends! How was your weekend? We’ve been busy, busy, busy! We’ve been in a slight panic mode, when we realised we basically have a month left before this baby arrives!  We still have so much to do and get, but Cape Town really does not make it easy for us. Everything closes before 2 on a Saturday or requires a long commute to get anything, and shopping on week days is just not an option for us, work keeps us busy!  Sundays we attend three hours of church that can sometimes feel like a million hours, and keeping the Sabbath day holy after that, doesn’t give us much time to sort out everything on our to do list!

We’ve started ordering stuff from amazon, just because delivery is faster than most of the South African online shopping experiences we’ve had! For all our organic needs we order from faithful to nature, they have been amazing and delivered within a day! Like it should be!  Stocking up on our biodegradable diapers has been easy with them by our side!

At my last midwife appointment, my midwife asked me if I’m ready for labour and I’m so ready, I don’t think she usually hears first time moms, being excited about labour. I feel like the pain we endure as expecting mothers in labour, prepares us, and shows us how strong we really are and that we can do this motherhood thing, but I’ll let you know how I feel when I’m actually in labour.   I’ve given Carl the heads up about the transitioning period and told him he should just remember I love him before I get mean, and he should just keep encouraging me if I feel like giving up.   I can’t wait to meet our little baby in a month, our midwife told us Baby A is thin and long, with a small head, after seeing Carl’s giant head as a baby and how he seemed to have grown into it as he got older, I’ve been really worried about what I’m in for, the head thing was a bit of a relief!

Happy Monday, Hope everyone has a lovely week and gets to everything they need to get done this week!.

 

an instant of life captured for eternity

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^^ Early morning walks everyday with this guy.  It feels like torture getting up so early to go for a walk, but this guy makes everything so much fun.

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^^ Baby nursery details.

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^^  During one of our walks, Carl demanded a after shave balm to ease his skin.  I made this and immediately after testing it on my hands ( I always have little cuts on my hands, not very lady like) felt extremely jealous.  It smells so good, and soothed my hands and just when I didn’t think it could get better, it left my hands softer than soft.

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^^ Beard oil for demanding husbands.

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^^ Vanilla protein shakes, enjoyed on days when the blender isn’t acting up.  We should just get a new blender, but we’ve just become so good at fixing it.

 

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^^ Rainy Saturdays with a green smoothie, fruit and raw buckwheat parfait.  So amazing.  I just love buckwheat so much.

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^^ Another day, another walk.

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^^ Walks backs home with the prettiest light.

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^^ Things are getting bumpy! Its been weird seeing some peoples reaction to my pregnancy.  From comments to it at supermarkets, to people just staring at my bump like they didn’t know humans came out of other humans.  Its been really funny.

Hi friends! How was your weekend? did you get up to anything?  We wen’t on a shopping trip to get our monthly food in hopes of avoiding our local supermarket for 2 – 3 weeks.  It gets way to crazy in that area when people get paid!  Instead we’ve decided to call our next two weekend, maintenance weekends.   Our little home was left in a state and we haven’t really gotten down to the real down and dirty cleaning.  We have to wash all the windows and mow the lawn of the most insanely overgrown garden ever!

We’ve been going for daily walks together that feels like the best therapy ever.  Our morning talks are just the best, even if I hate Carl a bit every morning when he forces me to get up for walkies, like a dog, but by the end of the walk I feel so refreshed!  Hope everyone’s week is lovely!